I don't even remember when this was. It was a long long time ago, it almost seems a completely different era. I was this young kid (yes I used to be young) at some point in my life and I was at my friend's place. We were three of us and my friend's mother suddenly said about me (while talking about a whole host of things) the following:
"Vamsi Jo bolta hai woh kar ke dikata hai, Hamein uski yeh baat badi acchi lagti hai"
Its funny that this is something I have never forgotten. Looking back at my life, I notice I have had mixed experiences on this. In recent times, I realize I am no magician and almost all of things I have said did not materialize. In this backdrop, I was watching this program on NDTV India which was essentially a discussion on Prakash Jha's movie called "Aarakshan". This is about the debate on reservations for backward communities in India. While the debate itself is interesting and I would like to pen my thoughts on it in a separate blog, one dialogue in the show from Prakash intrigued me. While answering the debate on whether reservations hamper meritocracy, he says, not all those who manage to move forward without having the support of reservations are meritorious and he used the example of money being used as instrument to buy success. He further goes on to say, "Being meritorious or claiming to be one is a big burden by itself"
I thought about it and I felt this to be so true. We all fall in this trap of being right, knowing how/what to decide better than others. The moment we say I am not capable of this and I trust the other person with respect to this you will find yourself to be calmer and content. Of course too much of this can be harmful as well as you question the need of very existence of yours, If you were to say that there exists no merit in your thoughts, you essentially are saying there exists no merit in your existence. We all need to strike a balance, move away from the quest for perfection to quest for balance to perhaps feel better. Incidentally somebody special told me to strike a balance of positives/negatives on an important issue. I was completely positive about the same, till I was asked to strike a balance by her.
But as is most often the case, we rarely get what we need and instead we end up at the other extreme. Those of us who need to be decisive end up taking a balanced view of things (some say our current Prime Minister, Manmohan Singh is one such individual) and those who need to take a balanced view end up taking an extremist view.
It is not possible for one to strike this balance If you don't have one as someone has rightly said that "Balance is beautiful" but he/she forgot to mention that not having balance is something better, cannot be expressed in words as that's why we find it impossible to move away from it.
"Vamsi Jo bolta hai woh kar ke dikata hai, Hamein uski yeh baat badi acchi lagti hai"
Its funny that this is something I have never forgotten. Looking back at my life, I notice I have had mixed experiences on this. In recent times, I realize I am no magician and almost all of things I have said did not materialize. In this backdrop, I was watching this program on NDTV India which was essentially a discussion on Prakash Jha's movie called "Aarakshan". This is about the debate on reservations for backward communities in India. While the debate itself is interesting and I would like to pen my thoughts on it in a separate blog, one dialogue in the show from Prakash intrigued me. While answering the debate on whether reservations hamper meritocracy, he says, not all those who manage to move forward without having the support of reservations are meritorious and he used the example of money being used as instrument to buy success. He further goes on to say, "Being meritorious or claiming to be one is a big burden by itself"
I thought about it and I felt this to be so true. We all fall in this trap of being right, knowing how/what to decide better than others. The moment we say I am not capable of this and I trust the other person with respect to this you will find yourself to be calmer and content. Of course too much of this can be harmful as well as you question the need of very existence of yours, If you were to say that there exists no merit in your thoughts, you essentially are saying there exists no merit in your existence. We all need to strike a balance, move away from the quest for perfection to quest for balance to perhaps feel better. Incidentally somebody special told me to strike a balance of positives/negatives on an important issue. I was completely positive about the same, till I was asked to strike a balance by her.
But as is most often the case, we rarely get what we need and instead we end up at the other extreme. Those of us who need to be decisive end up taking a balanced view of things (some say our current Prime Minister, Manmohan Singh is one such individual) and those who need to take a balanced view end up taking an extremist view.
It is not possible for one to strike this balance If you don't have one as someone has rightly said that "Balance is beautiful" but he/she forgot to mention that not having balance is something better, cannot be expressed in words as that's why we find it impossible to move away from it.
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